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December 16th 2015, 09:36 AM
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I guess I should add that the tone I use at times leads to me offending someone, even really personally. I don't know if this is a completely recurring problem, but it probably is. And not just the tone too, but jumping to conclusions without giving answers very much of a chance to be given to me at all. That, though, is less occurring than the previous thing though maybe?

So, pretty much, the tone/things I say have been shitty and I don't realize until later. There have probably been times where I do notice but don't say anything though I guess.

I can't be sure on this stuff.

As for the things people have said in this thread so far, I'll try to address as many of them as I have a response too I guess.

Then, I decided on a happy word. I chose "Zen" for some reason. I guess I like the way it sounds. When I get stressed out, I just think my happy word, along with things that make me happy, and slowly let that negative energy leave my body.
I get into states, like right now, where I can't really feel that. Something really good could happen and I'd still feel bad. Not that I don't care, but my current state overpowers whatever happy feeling should be occurring.

There is another tip I can give you, and this is not so much directed straight at you, but more as a reference and something that's helped me: many people, when they don't like a habit they have, they simply try to quit the habit. The problem is, they don't know what to do instead and end up going right back to the habit.
I guess that's the cycle I have right now. I'll try to do something about it, but I don't give it much of a chance/just stop doing it/whatever, and I go back to what I was doing before. The complaining thing has been brought up multiple times and I feel awful for failing this bad.

Alot of people give others crap for giving adivce like: "oh, yeah. Just dont do it."
And the truth is, yeah it is pretty crap advice most of the time. But on the other hand it works wonders for me. Its just certain people i guess.

Are you pretty much saying that the Shia Labeouf-style advice is bad? Because I agree. "Just do it" and "Just don't do it" are really weak. It is definitely not that easy.

Now im not saying the fault does INDEED lie with your friends and NOT you, but it is something to consider HONESTLY with yourself.

True friendship isnt all happiness and roses. Its telling your friend what THEY NEED to hear, helping them when THEY NEED it.
its about fully recognizing the faults in them, but accepting them and living with them.
(assuming the faults arent like super evil or something)

The fault is all on me. I'm the one that's in the wrong and I've been for so long. I honestly don't get why people bother with me, but I want to be able to give a reason to.

"its about fully recognizing the faults in them, but accepting them and living with them." Maybe that's why. But how long before people just give up and avoid me completely?

The fault you've pointed out is completely tolerable.
It really isn't, if you're meaning how overly complainy/insensitive I am.

AT ANY RATE, I'll be your friend (for what little help that'd be over the internet)
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Before acting or reacting, just form your sentences in your mind and think about how they sound and might come off, just mull things over before you say them.
That's the thing though. I just do it. There's no thought process prior. Something could happen and I just react like on some primal impulse or something. Or if there is, I don't hold it back and I complain anyways.

hugs you really are a sweetie mr - you can be anything you wanna be you are smart and thoughtful and caring. We can see that side of you - hope some day you allow yourself to see it to
I guess I can see that the caring can go so far that it feels like it loops around to being oblivious to things and making it appear like I don't.