A Personal Problem (Please Help)
Ok this is quite private and quite serious so if you do not want to give real answers or real advice please dont bother continuing...
Ok.. So i did something quite stupid, me and my friend Kristen.. We hung out which is nothing big. We hang out all the time. She likes me and we've known it for a long time. Sarah her friend also likes me and i like Sarah. Everyone including Kristen knowns that me and Sarah will be going out as soon as possible when we see each other next. But i did something stupid today with Kristen, she sorta kissed me... and continued kissing me off and on for about an hour. I am not sure weither to just ignore the fact that we kissed because i have no emotion or any other type of attachment twords Kristen. I do not like her in any way. Im not sure why we kissed.. or why i continued.. But i regret it deeply. I am not sure weither i should tell Sarah or not what happened. I mean she is a very understanding girl. I just refuse to hurt her.. Stopping anyway from hurting someone is my main moral. I would do ANYTHING to prevent someones feelings getting hurt. Kristen said she wouldnt tell. Im not sure what i should do. Can someone much wiser then myself help me out?
Oh, on a side note.. I keep listening to the song "Listen to your Heart - DHT" its a remix of the one by Roxette... =(
Ok.. So i did something quite stupid, me and my friend Kristen.. We hung out which is nothing big. We hang out all the time. She likes me and we've known it for a long time. Sarah her friend also likes me and i like Sarah. Everyone including Kristen knowns that me and Sarah will be going out as soon as possible when we see each other next. But i did something stupid today with Kristen, she sorta kissed me... and continued kissing me off and on for about an hour. I am not sure weither to just ignore the fact that we kissed because i have no emotion or any other type of attachment twords Kristen. I do not like her in any way. Im not sure why we kissed.. or why i continued.. But i regret it deeply. I am not sure weither i should tell Sarah or not what happened. I mean she is a very understanding girl. I just refuse to hurt her.. Stopping anyway from hurting someone is my main moral. I would do ANYTHING to prevent someones feelings getting hurt. Kristen said she wouldnt tell. Im not sure what i should do. Can someone much wiser then myself help me out?
Oh, on a side note.. I keep listening to the song "Listen to your Heart - DHT" its a remix of the one by Roxette... =(
I think Sarah, especially if she is understanding, would want to know what happened. You should tell her as soon as possible as well, because if she somehow finds out later, she will get angry. Tell her pretty much what you said here.
Try to set up a threesome.
C'mon, someone was going to say it.
C'mon, someone was going to say it.
She kept asking over AIM what it was, but i told her i refused to tell her over AIM, i needed to look her in the eyes when i told her. I'm not sure how well this will go over.. Oh well.. I deserve it i suppose.. oh haha. yeah sure.. threesom.. no >.<
Yeah, I wouldn't try that at your age, heck I wouldn't try anything beyond the traditional dating thing when you're only 15. Merlin's advice is good, though I wouldn't have left her hanging on AIM like that.
Well, if they're both hot, and they haven't been around too much...
As harsh as this sounds (and is), you've been an idiot. And a jerk too.
You've kissed your friend Kristen who likes you, when you have no romantic feelings towards her at all. Not only will this have confused her, but she's gonna feel pretty rejected too. I know people can't always explain their actions, but kissing a girl for who you have "no emotion or any other type of attachment twords" is pretty low.
Whether you should tell Sarah is a difficult question. If you are going to start going out with each other, honesty is the best policy. But perhaps it isn't, when it comes to kissing other girls.
You say your greatest moral is to not hurt peoples feelings, but that simply can't be true. Unless you don't stick to your morals, that is. It seems to me you will probably end up hurting them both.
Kristen may have thought something woulf happen between you two. She did just kiss the boy she fancies, after all. But wait... you don't have any feelings for her at all.
And Sarah? If she finds out, she won't be happy, even if she is a very understanding gal. If she doesn't... are you sure you like her that much if you'll just kiss someone you don't have any emotional attachment to? Who is to say you won't do something similar again?
Sorry to go on, but y'know... you've screwed up. I'd recommend telling Sarah exactly how you feel, how you really like her but made a mistake. She will hopefully appreciate your honesty, and even if it takes a bit of time, you will get together.
Alternatively, a threesome would be pretty fun.
You've kissed your friend Kristen who likes you, when you have no romantic feelings towards her at all. Not only will this have confused her, but she's gonna feel pretty rejected too. I know people can't always explain their actions, but kissing a girl for who you have "no emotion or any other type of attachment twords" is pretty low.
Whether you should tell Sarah is a difficult question. If you are going to start going out with each other, honesty is the best policy. But perhaps it isn't, when it comes to kissing other girls.
You say your greatest moral is to not hurt peoples feelings, but that simply can't be true. Unless you don't stick to your morals, that is. It seems to me you will probably end up hurting them both.
Kristen may have thought something woulf happen between you two. She did just kiss the boy she fancies, after all. But wait... you don't have any feelings for her at all.
And Sarah? If she finds out, she won't be happy, even if she is a very understanding gal. If she doesn't... are you sure you like her that much if you'll just kiss someone you don't have any emotional attachment to? Who is to say you won't do something similar again?
Sorry to go on, but y'know... you've screwed up. I'd recommend telling Sarah exactly how you feel, how you really like her but made a mistake. She will hopefully appreciate your honesty, and even if it takes a bit of time, you will get together.
Alternatively, a threesome would be pretty fun.
I vote for just living two lives, maybe have two houses, so you can have two relationships. (I've actually had two girlfriends at once, for like an hour before they both found out, but it was wicked cool...almost "pimpin")
But seriously, despite what you see in the movies, honesty is the best policy. You can't go wroung with bringing the skeletons out and leting it all hang out (ok maybe not the best analogy) And I agree with Sabre, you've screwed up kid. And to be real with ya, don't be going into this thinking there is a way for everyone to be happy. One (if not two) of these girls are going to get really hurt. Time is not on your side, the more you wait the harder it is gonnna get to fix things (if fixable). But more power to ya and hope they don't kill you
But seriously, despite what you see in the movies, honesty is the best policy. You can't go wroung with bringing the skeletons out and leting it all hang out (ok maybe not the best analogy) And I agree with Sabre, you've screwed up kid. And to be real with ya, don't be going into this thinking there is a way for everyone to be happy. One (if not two) of these girls are going to get really hurt. Time is not on your side, the more you wait the harder it is gonnna get to fix things (if fixable). But more power to ya and hope they don't kill you
Even if you had bonked her in the rear you should tell...
Being frank doesn't necessarily pay off in the end but it's the right thing to do.
Being frank doesn't necessarily pay off in the end but it's the right thing to do.
Me and Kristen have no idea why we kissed, but yes I did tell Sarah, she was perfectly ok with it BECAUSE we are not a couple yet.. And that is why.. I've never kissed a girl that i have not liked.. That is why i am puzzled why i let her.. Nor will something like this ever happen again. But yes, me and Sarah are still great friends (soon more) Me and Kristen are also still great friends (never more) Thanks for all the advise guys, *cough* Tal... 
