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so i went out with this girl for close to 2 years we broke up and i met someone else pretty much like the same day and weve been together for like 3 and a half months. well the first girl wants me to take her back but i want to be with the second one. what should happen? i love them both. which is weird i know cause i havent even known the one im with now for very long but we are already married. ok fine it was one of those 25 cent rings in a meijer parking lot but it still counts!

(girls reply only, being as all males here are jerks)

Thanks, nice stereotyping.

Well, at least he made a self-reference while he was at it. In fact, I'd say he made himself ineligible to post more in this thread.

That's true. It's hard to enforce rules without having any, ah... overlordship over the rest of us.

Now to be serious about the topic: it's a pretty difficult situation, but it's kinda hard if you have been someone for two years. Just think very well on who you love most and shared most experiences with.

You could move on, but if it leaves a trail of sadness and the other person is sorry about what she did, you should return to your former girl, whom you know best.

It'd help if I knew anything about those girls, so this is all the advice I can give you.

PS: Two girls? You lucky fellow.

"but it's kinda hard if you have been someone for two years"

I agree. I tried being someone for a week, but I failed miserably.

Unless you actually want and believe you can pull off some kind of polyamorous relationship with them (usually very unlikely, especially in situations similar to how yours sounds), it would be the most socially acceptable to stay with the girl you're with now. That way, if it goes sour, you have a slightly better chance of getting back together with the old gf.

You'd also want to look at whether or not you'd want to go back to the same relationship you had with the old gf (both the good and the bad), because, odds are, it will be pretty much the same.

i think i should stay with the one im with but its just hard, you know, because i was with the other one for so long. its like i know her so well like more than anyone else ive ever known and i could tell her anything and just feel like we had so much but at the same time i think well thats the point of a relationship and in time we will share the same sorts of things and she doesnt deserve for me to leave her just because i happened to be with the other one more because she isnt the one whos ever left me or done anything wrong i guess it was just so easy and routine and comforting to be with the other one that its really really hard to just give it up and its like what if ill never have what i had with her again?

You broke up for a reason with the first one. What's to say it won't happen again? And if you're happy where you are, stay there. Can you forget about girl one? If so, pick 2.

Yeah, either way, it's still a she dog of a decision.

Hmmm...tough case...I tend to agree with DaVince.

It's always easy to start anew, when it comes to relationships...no bad history or memories to recall...because you're still onthe way to making new ones (bad and good)... Take it from this old girl, though, the one who got away will always be romanticized as the "better one." I got this quote from a from friend when I was in some sort of dilemma like yours (cryptic but it can help you decide which one yo choose)... "No man/woman is worth your tears; and the one who does will never make you cry."

Good luck on your choice!