Girls
This is mainly meant for the "Men" of the DN, though women can participate too.
I want everyone to state the worst kind of excuse a girl said so you guys wouldn't go out.
So far mine is that she didn't want to get hurt, if she sees this though I might regret it.
Edit: How many girl dinkers are there, that are common here?
I want everyone to state the worst kind of excuse a girl said so you guys wouldn't go out.
So far mine is that she didn't want to get hurt, if she sees this though I might regret it.
Edit: How many girl dinkers are there, that are common here?
I think that having more than one thread on this general topic on this particular board is a mistake. Just saying.
Well I have made many mistakes and they always get forgotten so if this is bad, oh well.
So far mine is that she didn't want to get hurt,
Dack, that's indicative of her being in an abusive relationship in the past, and therefore had not been in a positive one and thus thought if she got into another one, possibly just after leaving the previous one, she would be hurt, again, and she most likely would break down into a sobbing wreck if she had to go through all of that again.
A real worst excuse is a girl not going out with a guy because he's not famous or popular.
Dack, that's indicative of her being in an abusive relationship in the past, and therefore had not been in a positive one and thus thought if she got into another one, possibly just after leaving the previous one, she would be hurt, again, and she most likely would break down into a sobbing wreck if she had to go through all of that again.
A real worst excuse is a girl not going out with a guy because he's not famous or popular.
From what I have heard she has gone out with no one yet, and that I have fine tastes.
So far my only reasons were that they weren't single. But tomorrow there's a chance I'll have a new top reason.
I shouldn't be such a pessimist.
I shouldn't be such a pessimist.
You should be a Tallimist then, also why would you have a new top reason tomorrow?
So far mine is that she didn't want to get hurt, if she sees this though I might regret it.
Oh yeah, total excuse. Guess she got over that getting hurt thing the next day when she's going out with some other guy.
"I'm not ready for a relationship yet", "I don't want to endanger our friendship", "I feel this isn't the time"... Girls are pretty good at delivering NOT INTERESTED in flowery ways.
They do it because girls are devious.
Oh yeah, total excuse. Guess she got over that getting hurt thing the next day when she's going out with some other guy.
"I'm not ready for a relationship yet", "I don't want to endanger our friendship", "I feel this isn't the time"... Girls are pretty good at delivering NOT INTERESTED in flowery ways.
They do it because girls are devious.
Yet again from what I know she is not going out with or has gone out with anyone, and are you a girl Scratch?
also why would you have a new top reason tomorrow?
Tomorrow I might be rejected in a fantastically stupid way.
Tomorrow I might be rejected in a fantastically stupid way.
I thought we all agreed to stop asking out each others mothers, Dinkkiller, you were there when we had the speech right?
tomorrow there's a chance I'll have a new top reason.
Good luck!
Good luck!
I shall wait for his reply, since it's tomorrow where I am, unless he gets lucky and s/he likes him.
I will simply say that the reason was not fantastically stupid.
How, and what was it, she got hit by a car?
Something I've heard before. She's not ready to date anyone right now, (same reason from another girl who I had a crush on for over 4 years.) I might have a chance down the road, but it wouldn't be for a while. Honestly, I expected this outcome in some form, so I'm not really disappointed. I just have to play the waiting game now.
Don't play the waiting game, take the chance to get to know her, and for her to get to know you. Don't date her, not until she's ready.
"No"
This is not to say I've been successful in my date attempts. In fact, I've had a 100% failure rate. I just happen to asked people who are willing to say "No".
This is not to say I've been successful in my date attempts. In fact, I've had a 100% failure rate. I just happen to asked people who are willing to say "No".
Don't play the waiting game, take the chance to get to know her, and for her to get to know you. Don't date her, not until she's ready.
My definition of the waiting game. That's exactly what I'm planning to do. Hang out with her at school and talk, get to know her, and become good friends with her. And when she's ready I make my move.
My definition of the waiting game. That's exactly what I'm planning to do. Hang out with her at school and talk, get to know her, and become good friends with her. And when she's ready I make my move.
How old are you DinkKiller, and I kind of like playing the waiting game, get to work on the D-mod or be here, just need some ice cream.
Sorry to burst your bubbles guys, but if they say they arent ready yet thats actually a I am too gutless to disappoint you,I dont wanna hurt your feelings, but I am not really interested so basically its a big resounding NO
Guys come on... Dont wait for these women - there is someone else out there for you and it isnt her Feel the pain of rejection and heal and go try again with someone else ok.
Mummie over and out
Guys come on... Dont wait for these women - there is someone else out there for you and it isnt her Feel the pain of rejection and heal and go try again with someone else ok.
Mummie over and out
I am almost 21. I don't really mind waiting all that much because I'm still young and rushing into something isn't a great idea. It gives the chance for us to become closer friends which would become beneficial in a possible future relationship. There are few girls I'm genuinely interested in, so I don't really have elsewhere to look.
I would say sometimes "waiting" is good, other times not so much. It really just depends on how important the person is to you, and how resistant they were when you first asked them. And if you two don't seem to get much closer together, at least you will probably still have a good friend to hang out with. That alone is usually worth such efforts.
For me, personally, I'd like to get to know somebody and be their friend before I ask them out. It's always been my policy.
I am almost 21. I don't really mind waiting all that much because I'm still young and rushing into something isn't a great idea. It gives the chance for us to become closer friends which would become beneficial in a possible future relationship. There are few girls I'm genuinely interested in, so I don't really have elsewhere to look.
Getting to know her better (and dazzling her with you wit and personality) sounds good, but your attitude sounds very submissive; 'I'll be there for you when you're ready', like a sad little puppy begging for a treat.
That'll never work. People are interested in things that aren't too easy to obtain, and vice versa. She currently has zero interest in dating you; showering her with even more attention is absolutely not the way to change her mind.
You should keep chatting with her, so that she is aware of your existence and your doings, but you should also talk with other girls. Make it look like you have things going for you, that she's NOT the only one you're interested in (even if she secretly is).
Not only will this raise your standing in her eyes, you might actually find someone else who IS genuinely interested in you in the process. At the end of the day, getting someone who doesn't to see you as a potential partner is very difficult.
Getting to know her better (and dazzling her with you wit and personality) sounds good, but your attitude sounds very submissive; 'I'll be there for you when you're ready', like a sad little puppy begging for a treat.
That'll never work. People are interested in things that aren't too easy to obtain, and vice versa. She currently has zero interest in dating you; showering her with even more attention is absolutely not the way to change her mind.
You should keep chatting with her, so that she is aware of your existence and your doings, but you should also talk with other girls. Make it look like you have things going for you, that she's NOT the only one you're interested in (even if she secretly is).
Not only will this raise your standing in her eyes, you might actually find someone else who IS genuinely interested in you in the process. At the end of the day, getting someone who doesn't to see you as a potential partner is very difficult.
It's not that she's not interested in dating me, she's not interested in dating anyone right now. Something that came up during that conversation sounded like she wasn't opposed to the idea of dating me sometime down the road either.
Of course, I know nothing about her except what you say in this thread, so no way to tell what the situation is with certainty. That she's not interested in dating sounds a lot like an excuse, though...
I appreciate the comments though, scratcher. I think that she just isn't ready to attempt a relationship with anyone. Plus we haven't known each other very long, so that could also be a factor. We're already starting to become good friends so who knows what'll happen a few months from now.