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I am happy and sad for you. Sad because you too have experienced the pain of losing a loved one. Happy because, you being atheist or not, he said goodbye with a loving moment. Maybe there isn't an afterlife or a heaven or any of the many things that people comfort themselves with and believe in. And maybe there is.
Maybe your father and my father really did say goodbye.
I believe in God. However, I prefer to think with reason and not emotions. So it was very difficult to believe my dream was any more than that. And I'm still not convinced it was anything more than that. My husband is extremely loving and he was drowning in a sea of tears. Maybe he told me what he thought would comfort me. But here's the thing: Before my husband told me his story, I was already comforted. The emotions of love for daddy were unburdened by loss. I truly had settled all the doubts, regrets, the 'why couldn't I say goodbye', and all the rest of it. I've got peace from his death now. And all from an episode that might not be real. If my brain dreamed this up, I can live with that. Because the emotions are real regardless of anything else. I still grieve occassionally at special times but that's just missing him.
If you can take comfort from what happened, then let it do so. Your father knew you loved him. He came back for a moment to comfort you. Don't let that go to waste in intellectual debate. It's not wrong to hold on to a moment in time that helps you through a very painful time. Real or not! And maybe, just maybe, he was really there.
Peace to you, neithskye.
Maybe your father and my father really did say goodbye.
I believe in God. However, I prefer to think with reason and not emotions. So it was very difficult to believe my dream was any more than that. And I'm still not convinced it was anything more than that. My husband is extremely loving and he was drowning in a sea of tears. Maybe he told me what he thought would comfort me. But here's the thing: Before my husband told me his story, I was already comforted. The emotions of love for daddy were unburdened by loss. I truly had settled all the doubts, regrets, the 'why couldn't I say goodbye', and all the rest of it. I've got peace from his death now. And all from an episode that might not be real. If my brain dreamed this up, I can live with that. Because the emotions are real regardless of anything else. I still grieve occassionally at special times but that's just missing him.
If you can take comfort from what happened, then let it do so. Your father knew you loved him. He came back for a moment to comfort you. Don't let that go to waste in intellectual debate. It's not wrong to hold on to a moment in time that helps you through a very painful time. Real or not! And maybe, just maybe, he was really there.
Peace to you, neithskye.
