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I just can't feel a sense of accomplishment when I put effort into anything.
Do you have any idea why that is? Let's see if we can figure it out through some questions. Do you not feel like it's good enough, even after putting effort in? Or are you not happy with it even when it is perfect? Would it help if you were praised for it by others? In particular by others whose judgment you normally value?
Things involving other people? If it was so easy.
I did not intend to imply that it was easy.
I have no friends whatsoever. I never had any, and for a long time now, I doubt I will ever have any.
That is terrible, and I suggest you do everything you can to fix that. It's not easy, certainly, but it is totally worth it.
I'm not the person who can make friends, or like groups larger than 3-4 people.
Neither am I. But I do always have a group of one or two friends, and that's how I like it. Since we're similar in that respect, I'll explain how I try making new friends when I want to. Others would go to bars or similar places, but whenever I'm there, I mostly want to run away. From what you say, I'm guessing it's the same for you.
So what I do instead, is find a hobby which involves other people. In my case, since I'm sexually attracted to women, I try to find something where they are present (which means I avoid things like computer clubs; I like it there, but I don't like to be around only men). To be clear: I'm not just looking for sex, and I'm not trying to only get female friends. I'm just trying to make sure I don't get only male friends.
In my case, I chose to join a dancing club. I met new people there, and there's no problem figuring out what to do. While being with those people, I tell them about myself and (ask about and) listen to what they tell about themselves. When I do that to enough people, my experience is that it doesn't take long to make new friends. The most important part is to be open, both about myself, and about listening to others.
And it helps to be learning with the others. So if you think you're not good enough at something, that's actually a good thing in this case. I couldn't dance at all when I started. That made it easier to talk to the others, because that's how everyone starts. If you want to learn about something, and you can find a place where others are learning about the same thing, that is a great way to make new friends.
Do you have any idea why that is? Let's see if we can figure it out through some questions. Do you not feel like it's good enough, even after putting effort in? Or are you not happy with it even when it is perfect? Would it help if you were praised for it by others? In particular by others whose judgment you normally value?
Things involving other people? If it was so easy.
I did not intend to imply that it was easy.
I have no friends whatsoever. I never had any, and for a long time now, I doubt I will ever have any.
That is terrible, and I suggest you do everything you can to fix that. It's not easy, certainly, but it is totally worth it.
I'm not the person who can make friends, or like groups larger than 3-4 people.
Neither am I. But I do always have a group of one or two friends, and that's how I like it. Since we're similar in that respect, I'll explain how I try making new friends when I want to. Others would go to bars or similar places, but whenever I'm there, I mostly want to run away. From what you say, I'm guessing it's the same for you.
So what I do instead, is find a hobby which involves other people. In my case, since I'm sexually attracted to women, I try to find something where they are present (which means I avoid things like computer clubs; I like it there, but I don't like to be around only men). To be clear: I'm not just looking for sex, and I'm not trying to only get female friends. I'm just trying to make sure I don't get only male friends.
In my case, I chose to join a dancing club. I met new people there, and there's no problem figuring out what to do. While being with those people, I tell them about myself and (ask about and) listen to what they tell about themselves. When I do that to enough people, my experience is that it doesn't take long to make new friends. The most important part is to be open, both about myself, and about listening to others.
And it helps to be learning with the others. So if you think you're not good enough at something, that's actually a good thing in this case. I couldn't dance at all when I started. That made it easier to talk to the others, because that's how everyone starts. If you want to learn about something, and you can find a place where others are learning about the same thing, that is a great way to make new friends.
