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Once these people have been rehabilitated and function normally in society, You seriously dont think it is that easy?
Your rape example does not discuss why the rapist decided to rape the woman.
Although stereotypically it is males that rape - lets not forget it isnt always males ok
that said...
He is merely feeding his need to control, he has a choice not to feed that need. He chose to learn that behaviour, somehow his reward from that act was enough to make him want that power over someone weaker again (and again?). He can choose to unlearn. Those little neuron pathways work both ways, but this takes time and a concious choice to relearn/retrain your brain. Again - its a choice he has to make and then act on (repeatedly to reforge those neurons in a different direction)!
He hasn't thought oh woe is me I have so little in life lets go rape someone before I steal a car... rape isnt about that. Rape is an act of violence, (power and control) nothing whatsoever about sex, and not because of someones life circumstances. Thats like saying because you are down and out you have more change of being a rapist - the reverse is actally true, hes more likely to have a job a wife and family and something like 96% actually know the victim so it isnt the stranger in the bushes you have to worry about!
"He" probably grew up being influenced by someone who exerted control over him and made him feel powerless/useless and instead of the many other choices he could have made he makes the one that sees him committing rape.
You could also look at the other side of the coin, it is amazing how frequent there is a kind of 'generational' victim theme running through some families, grandmother was raped, mother was raped and then daughter, all usually more than once - so what learned message do they put out there that defines them as targets that these offenders pick up on?
Now noone asked to be raped, no matter what the circumstances, but doesnt the behaviour appear to be learned when it goes on and on through generations (and believe me it really does) so why exclude the possibility of one of those women making a definate choice not to become a victim and changing something (whatever that is) to make things different from her generation forward.
I really believe we can make changes to our lives, we dont have to accept the expectations put on us by friends and family/parents or generational habits and the like, simply by chosing to you CAN 'change direction' and keep practicing it until it becomes part of you.
Gotta love that free will
Your rape example does not discuss why the rapist decided to rape the woman.
Although stereotypically it is males that rape - lets not forget it isnt always males ok
that said...He is merely feeding his need to control, he has a choice not to feed that need. He chose to learn that behaviour, somehow his reward from that act was enough to make him want that power over someone weaker again (and again?). He can choose to unlearn. Those little neuron pathways work both ways, but this takes time and a concious choice to relearn/retrain your brain. Again - its a choice he has to make and then act on (repeatedly to reforge those neurons in a different direction)!
He hasn't thought oh woe is me I have so little in life lets go rape someone before I steal a car... rape isnt about that. Rape is an act of violence, (power and control) nothing whatsoever about sex, and not because of someones life circumstances. Thats like saying because you are down and out you have more change of being a rapist - the reverse is actally true, hes more likely to have a job a wife and family and something like 96% actually know the victim so it isnt the stranger in the bushes you have to worry about!
"He" probably grew up being influenced by someone who exerted control over him and made him feel powerless/useless and instead of the many other choices he could have made he makes the one that sees him committing rape.
You could also look at the other side of the coin, it is amazing how frequent there is a kind of 'generational' victim theme running through some families, grandmother was raped, mother was raped and then daughter, all usually more than once - so what learned message do they put out there that defines them as targets that these offenders pick up on?
Now noone asked to be raped, no matter what the circumstances, but doesnt the behaviour appear to be learned when it goes on and on through generations (and believe me it really does) so why exclude the possibility of one of those women making a definate choice not to become a victim and changing something (whatever that is) to make things different from her generation forward.
I really believe we can make changes to our lives, we dont have to accept the expectations put on us by friends and family/parents or generational habits and the like, simply by chosing to you CAN 'change direction' and keep practicing it until it becomes part of you.
Gotta love that free will
