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Maturity.

February 27th 2003, 12:34 PM
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This has been on my mind lately. Maturity. What do you think it is? Is it overrated or overrated? Do people tell you to grow up and mature? What's your opinion on it?

People have commonly told me to grow up. That I am not mature enough for them. I think maturity is overrated. I mean, I've tried to "mature" but it's not as much fun that way. It's not my kind of thing. I feel limited, caged, suppressed when I have to act grown up or mature.

Discuss maturity.
February 27th 2003, 01:45 PM
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SimonK
Peasant He/Him Australia
 
Well, it depends upon the society you live in and their unwritten codes of ethics. Mind you I met with some people yesterday that I had not seen for a number of years and one of them didn't recognise me. His partner, who turned up later, did... and then he said... "Ah Simon, I didn't recognise you, it's been a long time. You've matured." My reply was... "Well, I've certainly gotten older" (IE there is grey in my beard now). I think most people associate maturity with quietness - both vocally and in motion. Just my 2 cents worth.
February 27th 2003, 01:57 PM
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I'd have to disagree with the quietness in emotion part. I had a problem for most of my life where I did not show emotions, I hid my feelings, from everyone. It got me into a lot of trouble in relationships, as nobody knew how to deal with me, what I was thinking etc. I matured a tremendous amount by being able to see that problem and take care of it, and now I am quite open with others.
February 27th 2003, 03:20 PM
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Noa
Peasant They/Them
 
EatTheRats, you've read my mind, it was only recently that I got a full report on how un-mature I am... well, not exactly, I had a argument... it was quite pointless, but anyway, I think that maturity is learning, and we learn each second, we think, we imagine... we experience!
So how can some people say others are less mature? I always believed that everyone are 'mature' some way or another... and there are many subjects you can prove 'maturity' in.
So that's what I think, 'mature' is just a word used by people who wish to brag about the social skills they learned. But we all learn and there's no escape from it...
Blahpf! I must be tired, look what I've written about one word, eesh, I am driving myself crazy...
Night'
February 27th 2003, 03:41 PM
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You shouldn't take life too seriously,
you'll never get out alive...
February 27th 2003, 04:17 PM
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Ric
Peasant They/Them Canada
 
Maturity means realising what can go wrong, and not putting yourself there. Don't get too mature, or nothing will go right, because you won't do anything at all.
February 28th 2003, 01:39 AM
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SimonK
Peasant He/Him Australia
 
OkalyD - I typed motion, not emotion
February 28th 2003, 07:46 AM
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AS
Peasant He/Him India
 
I think maturity comes with experience, when you finally know how to react in different situations, with different people, and when to show your emotions, etc., etc., etc....
March 6th 2003, 01:33 AM
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joshriot
Peasant They/Them United States
keep it real 
"id rather stay a child and keep my self respect if growing up means being like you" -biafra.

"i dont want to be like other adults, theyve already died." -descendents

there is no such thing as maturity. live for yourself. dont worry about meeting a social standard or anything fabulous like that. when you are old and you realize youve wasted your whole life, you will realize you never were mature. you just acted how you thought you had to act.

being mature is being able to handle situations on your own. its being yourself and not caring what others think. dont care. sometimes i tell my best friend that his problem is that he doesnt care. sometimes i tell him that is problem is caring too much. when you are mature is when you can tell the difference on your own, not when you worry about maturity.
March 6th 2003, 04:03 AM
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Tal
Noble He/Him United States
Super Sexy Tal Pal 
That ol' Jello jiggles of wisdom.