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I don't know what to do

August 15th, 04:54 PM
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RangerLord
Peasant Male bloop
I'm here, just hidden in the shadows. 
So, I came to a big pitfall in my life. I can't move forward or... anywhere. I'm disturbed. Thoughts bounce back and forth in my head. Do you know what it feels like to have two opposing thoughts about something and they tear your mind? Ever had trouble choosing between things - to finally commit to one of them? Did you wish there were more of you and you could just split your pains and aspirations? Have you ever feeled something went terribly wrong with your past but you just can't fix it anymore? Ever lost something and really wanted it back, but knew you couldn't get it back? Okay, I finished talking about my crazy mind. Just... don't know what to do. I know this won't make anyone feel better, I just hope this makes me a bit calmer. Going to sleep now...
August 15th, 11:12 PM
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Skurn
Peasant Female United States xbox steam duck bloop
i like pie 
I can't move forward or... anywhere.

yes

Thoughts bounce back and forth in my head.

yes

Have you ever feeled something went terribly wrong with your past but you just can't fix it anymore?

yes

Ever lost something and really wanted it back, but knew you couldn't get it back?

yes
August 16th, 05:43 AM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
I feel your pain. Like, 24/7.
August 16th, 11:59 AM
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SlipDink
Peasant Male United States bloop
2nd generation. No easy way to be free. 
Life is filled with uncertainty and pain. But it is also a place of joy if you can find it. Sometimes this is hard to do.

Yes, I have felt lost several times in my life and suffered regrets. But, learning to not look back is an important skill. You need to look forward.

Talking about your difficulties with someone you trust (in RL) is a start. Then, don't try to fix everything at once, just focus on fixing one thing at a time, as each day goes by. Try to avoid letting yourself become overwhelmed again.

Forgive me if my (perhaps unwanted) advice seems pointless or even intrusive. Everyone suffers, if for no other reason than life is not perfect and that you need to overcome hardships in order to appreciate the good parts of life.

Good Luck.
August 16th, 02:24 PM
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Skurn
Peasant Female United States xbox steam duck bloop
i like pie 
man, there's a mlp comic about dealing with problems one at a time and not obsessing about them constantly. and then to move onto something else if you can't find a solution.

so there's that.
August 17th, 10:03 PM
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baphomet
Peasant Male Germany
Tanke och tal!!! Ro! Ro in sinnets land!!! 
Let's try this.
RL, what are the things that you have dreamed of doing.
Hobbies
Jobs
Sports
Etc.
August 18th, 06:18 AM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
Let's try this.
RL, what are the things that you have dreamed of doing.
Hobbies
Jobs
Sports
Etc.


Being unhappy with your life doesnt necessarily mean you wish you could've done more
August 18th, 07:42 AM
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baphomet
Peasant Male Germany
Tanke och tal!!! Ro! Ro in sinnets land!!! 
Shut up bluedy, I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to RL.
Everyone has something they always wanted to do in life. I wish to hear or actually read what HE has to say. Then I'll make some suggestions on how to achieve his goal.

So bud out.

August 18th, 10:07 AM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
Shut up bluedy, I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to RL.
Everyone has something they always wanted to do in life. I wish to hear or actually read what HE has to say. Then I'll make some suggestions on how to achieve his goal.

So bud out.


Oh wow someone's a salty twat. Also dont worry, RL doesnt want to hear what you have to say. Especially after what you've done to him. Actually no one does. Mainly because, contrary to your beliefs, you're as wise as my ass.
August 18th, 10:07 AM
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Skurn
Peasant Female United States xbox steam duck bloop
i like pie 
that didn't take long. -_-
August 18th, 10:08 AM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
thats all I had to say. bye
August 18th, 11:08 AM
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RangerLord
Peasant Male bloop
I'm here, just hidden in the shadows. 
Whow, really great to see you guys are getting along...
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Hobbies? Well, aside from playing video games, I haven't got much. Collecting books and video games perhaps. I had interest in histoy and folklore. I still kind of have. Jobs? Considering I hate work... Once I was thinking about something related to history or computers, but mostly scrapped that. My family thinks I could take up translating. And maybe I could do an okay job as a janitor. Sports? Don't get me started. The only one that might slightly interest me is archery.
August 19th, 06:35 AM
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zeddexx
Peasant Male New Zealand
I'm pretty sure I'm worth atleast SIX goats... 
Yikes, sorry, ignore the fighting ranger.

So lemme get this straight, you're wanting to decide between doing one thing or another?
August 19th, 07:36 AM
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baphomet
Peasant Male Germany
Tanke och tal!!! Ro! Ro in sinnets land!!! 
@bluedy
Salty twat. Lol
Duck you

@skurn
Ignored

@RL

History, folklore, archery, computers. Hmmmm...

How well are you at making and programming games. I'm not suggesting making a new dink mod, but your own awesome game.
Like perhaps an RPG, or even a new weird mythological based RTS games.
Now I know there are a lot of games like that out there, but all gamers like a new story.

Edit:
Collect books,
I hope read them as you collect them.

Edit #2
What exactly is propelling this depression?
August 20th, 02:58 PM
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RangerLord
Peasant Male bloop
I'm here, just hidden in the shadows. 
The problem is not only deciding between things, many times I don't even know what decisions I have. Game development is not the way for me. I don't know any programming languages, wouldn't work well in a team, and I could never develop a good game alone. My problems are related to a broken family, an uncertain future, impossible goals, lack of any friends and relations, my beliefs that I'm uncertain about or question and a world I'm completely dissatisfied with.
August 20th, 03:46 PM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
Wow, that sure sounds like you wish you couldve done more with your life. It seems professional psychologist Baphomet was right after all.
RL, do yourself a favour and stop talking to Baphomet. Its obvious he doesnt know shit about anything. He cant help you. He cant even help himself.
August 20th, 03:56 PM
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RangerLord
Peasant Male bloop
I'm here, just hidden in the shadows. 
You are right. None of you can help me. Sorry for wasting your time.
August 20th, 04:48 PM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
Well thats not what I meant...
August 21st, 11:46 AM
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SlipDink
Peasant Male United States bloop
2nd generation. No easy way to be free. 
I'd say that most of us here that have responded to you (in our own clumsy ways) care about you and want you to "get better".

But, it seems to me that the main message you should take away from these conversations is that perhaps you do need professional help.

Don't wait. Depression can kill. See a rabbi or minister or priest or shrink or something.

Please.
August 21st, 01:38 PM
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Skurn
Peasant Female United States xbox steam duck bloop
i like pie 
See a rabbi or minister or priest or shrink or something.

will attempt to convert you in your vulnerable state, will attempt to convert you in your vulnerable state, will attempt to convert you in your vulnerable state, will attempt to make money off of you in your vulnerable state.

talk to people. it's free and there's a better chance they'll care. also weed. it's illegal because it works.
August 22nd, 08:07 AM
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baphomet
Peasant Male Germany
Tanke och tal!!! Ro! Ro in sinnets land!!! 
@bluedy
Lol. Big butt, he blew you off too.

@RL
Well, I know I said this before but once again what you said is pathetic. The "I don't think i can do it part".
Well don't think, try.
You never know until you try.

Anyhow if you are really depressed I agree with the fellow dinkers. You need to get professional help, instead of going to a group of BONEHEADS (I mean all dinkers, including myself) (well maybe except slipdink ad zed)

In my opinion you need to get laid.

Join a dating site. Yeah that's it. I don't mean just get a girl to knock up, but to give you something your heart leaps to. I order you to go and join a dating site, set up a blind date. It might take a bit but you'll do it.

And don't think, try.

August 22nd, 08:22 AM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 

In my opinion you need to get laid.

Join a dating site. Yeah that's it. I don't mean just get a girl to knock up, but to give you something your heart leaps to. I order you to go and join a dating site, set up a blind date. It might take a bit but you'll do it.

And don't think, try.


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September 13th, 04:27 PM
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RangerLord
Peasant Male bloop
I'm here, just hidden in the shadows. 
Things aren't getting better. I just feel everything is getting worse. What am I supposed to do when nobody can help me? I mean, really. The medicine I take doesn't help me. You know, it's weird to be me. I aspire for greatness, but don't do much for it. I'm not satisfied with my situation, and I always want more. I want to change the world, but I doubt I'm capable. I want to ask something: how far would you be willing to go in order to achieve a goal?
September 13th, 04:44 PM
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Skurn
Peasant Female United States xbox steam duck bloop
i like pie 
first off, don't take medicine in an attempt to improve your mood. 99% of meds are created to take advantage of a situation and make money. i assume you're taking anti-depressants?

those are pretty dangerous, actually. they make you tired, have walls of side effects including the exact stuff you're trying to get rid of, cost a bunch and can give you a dependency. trash those immediately. or if they're not anti-depressants, trash whatever you've gotten. they won't help.

what will help is to find people to relate to. talk with them, do whatever with them. maybe even someone here could relate better if you could be more specific. or, you could connect with people who share interests. it'll take time to feel better, but it'll happen eventually unlike if you keep relying on chemical junk.

maybe you could also try something new. or something. anything to keep you occupied that isn't harmful. also cut out whatever you can that's toxic.
September 13th, 04:52 PM
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SlipDink
Peasant Male United States bloop
2nd generation. No easy way to be free. 
> Things aren't getting better. I just feel everything is getting worse. What am I supposed to do when nobody can help me?

Please...
...get professional help... soon. Obviously chatting in a public forum with assorted well meaning Dinkers is not making things better.

> I mean, really. The medicine I take doesn't help me.

Talk to the person who prescribed it for you.

>You know, it's weird to be me. I aspire for greatness, but don't do much for it.

You are obviously a person whose contributions here at the DN are significant and useful, so I'm sure you could contribute to some other venture that would fulfill you more too. But, to (attempt to) answer your question, greatness requires you to work hard (ideally at something you love, which always makes it easier) and service to others. You clearly have both of those within you or you would not be worrying about this matter so much.

> I'm not satisfied with my situation, and I always want more. I want to change the world, but I doubt I'm capable. I want to ask something: how far would you be willing to go in order to achieve a goal?

I'd say go as far as it takes to achieve that goal without compromising your sense of morality and ethics.
September 13th, 10:16 PM
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KrisKnox
Peasant Male United States steam
The site's resident Therian (Dire Wolf, Dragon) 
TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. TALK TO A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.
I did that eight times to drive it in. It doesn't matter if you have been, continue if so. Don't feel bad if you aren't able to move forward, you're depressed, I've bee there and continue to be there. Right now, I'm a complete ducking mess of a person who can't even gather the willpower to finish a ducking game. Life sucks, but you and I can do it. Push onward until you can't anymore, and when you can't, have someone help you. When you cannot rely on others to help you, fortify, shut out the negative thoughts, pick something simple, do that, and then pick something else. Get mad, become so mad at your situation that you must conquer it, let the rage carry you on, and if you can do all of it at once, all the better.
Make a list of things to do, they don't have to be world-shattering, list five simple things that need to be done; dishes, taking the trash out, cleaning your room, mowing your lawn, filling out an application to a job, anything that you can absolutely do within your physical power, and when those five things are done, take that list, put a check mark in it, and put it in a desk drawer for specifically holding those lists. When you feel like you can't even anymore, open that drawer, pull out every list, and remind yourself that this is only a dip, a recession, that you can and will break your way out of it.
My younger brother's recently started helping me deal with my anxiety and inability to do anything other than lay in my bed and do nothing. He's had me pick out one thing to do on the next day, any extra I pick, and he holds me to that and supports me when I need the help. Find someone, a friend, a sibling, even your parents, ask them to support you in this way, have them ask, 'What is one thing that needs to be done?' and do that one thing.
It is not going to be easy, but with support from friends, family, professionals, and those simple tasks that you know you can do and will do because you won't let this shit fly anymore, you'll be able to, at the very least, be able to look around you and say, 'I'm ducking broken, I can barely do anything, but I ducking did this.'
So, let's do this, you and I.
September 14th, 11:03 AM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
Usually when Im extremely depressed I find a time of the day when I have nothing to do (usually before sleep) and just sit and think about what the cause us and how I can solve it. Because usually only I know how I can solve these things. It may be the same for you, where only you know how to solve this issue. I may be wrong.
September 16th, 11:53 AM
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SSA
Ghost
 
To tell you the truth I can't completely feel your situation.But like you i aspire for greatness and i want to change the world to a nice place.I think you should pay attention to your soul and spirit(where the desire for greatness and change comes from it.). Maybe I'm not the best person to say that but try this video.It's only 14 minutes so i beg you to watch it carefully.(14 minutes is nothing to these boring days without specific goal and inner peace)
this is video URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xhZ00xnHIA
please don't judge this video just by its title.I hope your solution is in video and you find you inner peace.
September 16th, 02:15 PM
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KrisKnox
Peasant Male United States steam
The site's resident Therian (Dire Wolf, Dragon) 
Never trust a person who thinks a youtube video is the end all be all for depression, he's probably trying to sell you something. Or worse, he's a Jehovas Witness.
September 16th, 04:11 PM
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Bluedy
Peasant Male Romania steam bloop
Flyest artist you know 
Just another bot
September 16th, 04:54 PM
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Skurn
Peasant Female United States xbox steam duck bloop
i like pie 
either way, it's a religious video targeted at someone in a vulnerable state, so it's scummy.